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by Michael Corthell There are two basic types of perfectionists; Adaptive and Maladaptive . Adaptive types are considered 'normal'. Researchers have found that both adaptive and maladaptive perfectionists have high personal standards, but failing to meet those standards is more stressful for the maladaptive than for the adaptive or normal folks. STRESS is the key word. Stress is not healthy for the body, mind or soul — so lets do something about it.  ''Perfectionism becomes a badge of honor with you playing the part of the suffering hero.'' — David D. Burns Being a perfectionist can: Make you have low self esteem. A perfectionist has low self esteem because he can’t accept himself as he really is – imperfect. Make you depressed and unhappy.  No one can be happy if they can't accept life on life's terms. Constantly trying to make everything perfect, which is impossible, they will fall into depression. Happiness depends on acceptance

The ''The aim of positive psychology is to catalyze a change in psychology from a preoccupation only with repairing the worst things in life to also building the best qualities in life.'' — Martin Seligman The good news is, bad things don’t affect us as profoundly as we expect them to. If positive psychology teaches us anything, it is that all of us are a mixture of strengths and weaknesses. No one has it all, and no one lacks it all. — Christopher Peterson

“The existence of a prime mover- nothing can move itself;  there must be a first mover. The first mover is called God.” ― Thomas Aquinas St. Imagination is everything. It creates the future. “Zeus, first cause, prime mover; for what thing without Zeus is done among mortals?” ― Aeschylus, Agamemnon

“Anyone who lives within their means suffers from a lack of imagination.” ― Oscar Wilde If you have the will, making money isn't all that difficult... What's hard is to earn it by doing something worthwhile that you enjoy. “If you want to know what God thinks of money, just look at the people he gave it to.” ― Dorothy Parker

''Emotional immaturity is searching for love outside you.  Emotional maturity comes from realizing you are the source of love.'' ― Collette O'Mahony When we develop the willingness to forgive, we are spiritually and emotionally mature. ''Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values.'' Joshua L. Liebman

by Michael Corthell Positive personality development leading to emotional maturity is acquired in two ways: by adjustment and by growth through experience. They may seem similar but there are differences. ''Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.'' ― Roy T. Bennett Adjustment is the type of positive personality development that lets us to operate effectively within our culture and society. The ability to make adjustments contributes to our lives running evenly and therefore smoothly. Adjusting to live also contributes to our personal wellbeing, life success, and even our longevity. As we age, we become more adjusted to the tasks and challenges of life through and by experience. For example, we may give up unrealistic goals, scale back certain expectations, or we grow by reshaping our own self-image because of ou

“Sometimes human places, create inhuman monsters.” ― Stephen King, The Shining Monsters don’t get happy endings.” “The monsters were never under my bed. Because the monsters were inside my head. I fear no monsters, for no monsters I see. Because all this time the monster has been me.” ― Nikita Gill

Former President Trump shares 50 traits with Rev. Jim Jones and other cult leaders.  Have a look . by Michael Corthell In the Fall of 1978 more than 900 people committed mass suicide. They all belonged to a cult headed by Pastor Jim Jones. They killed themselves because one, drug addicted man told them to.  In the media they were referred to as being part of the “Jonestown cult”. The most telling aspect of the Jonestown cult was the total control Jones exerted on what his follower thought, or believed. As documented in the book, The Suicide Cult , extreme punishments were meted out to anyone who defected even in the slightest way – including expressing the slightest doubt in “Pastor Jones” (who was often called “Father Jones”). My purpose in writing this article is not to accuse any group. It is only to warn you. God often has used sheep as a symbol for groups of people. There is a reason for that. We can we easily led. We look to leadership. We look to a leader who will tell us wh

“In this country American means white. Everybody else has to hyphenate.”  ― Toni Morrison Your happiness cannot be purchased by another race's misery. “Hating people because of their color is wrong. And it doesn't matter which color does the hating. It's just plain wrong.” ― Muhammad Ali

“You are what you eat. What would YOU like to be?” ― Julie Murphy Life for many is a tragedy of nutrition. “Any food that requires enhancing by the use of chemical substances should in no way be considered a food.” ― John H. Tobe

  This reality is a social disease, for people to actually gain off the misery of others and cause the destruction of our environment is obscene. Efficiency, abundance and sustainability are enemies of our current economic systems, because they are the inverse of the mechanics required to perpetuate consumption[Capitalism]. All the human misery of poverty, crime, wars and most pandemics are products of the creation, perpetuation and preservation of artificial scarcity and inefficiency. A Resource-Based Economy is nothing like any other system. They say “It’s a form of communism.” No, it’s not! Communism has warships, airplanes, bombers, poison gas, nerve gas…and all the things we have [today]. It’s nothing like any other ‘…ism’. It’s different than any culture ever tried before. ―  Jacque Fresco, The Venus Project

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” ― J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets Success means that we used our talents and abilities to serve others. “Man often becomes what he believes himself to be. If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it. On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.” ― Mahatma Gandhi

Talent: natural aptitude or skill: flair, aptitude, facility, gift, knack: "he possesses more talent than any other player.'' by MIchael Corthell Our talents are a natural abilities or capacities to do something, they may range from the creative arts to our athletic ability to hit a baseball out of the park. We all have abilities, but we don't always know what they are. Sometimes they are right in front of us, but we still miss them. ''Talent is God given. Be humble. Fame is man-given. Be grateful. Conceit is self-given. Be careful.'' — John Wooden When we determine what our hidden talents are, we can then tap into a valuable resource which will help us in every aspect of our lives, including making a living. How can we discover what we're good at then and develop that talent? It's easier than you think... Listen to what others say about you. If you listen, that is pay attention, people will tell us what we're good a