How to Deal with Change

Seasons Change and So Do We

by Michael Corthell

Our first reaction to the unexpected change is usually quite negative. Feeling vulnerable and maybe even threatened, we can react badly. In fact, we go through stages: Surprise (shock, wondering why this is happening to us.), Panic (how the changes will impact us and if we'll be able to handle them), and even Blame (we try to find safety and reassurance by shifting the blame to someone else).

Bottom line—we all need to know how to handle Change.

''Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.''

— Arnold Bennett

What is the worst that can happen? Ask this question, then decide just how likely it is to happen. The next question is, ''How likely is it to happen?''

How much and what part of this change can you control? When change happens, figure out how if it's something you can control, and just how much control you do have.

Think positive! Looking at the positives will help you feel better about the event — period.

Take action! And do it right away. Any change needs your attention. Plus, procrastination always breeds anxiety. Who needs more of that?

Accept(or change the change) this thing that has happened. ''God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.''

Practice stress reduction. Meditate, get out into the fresh air. Do yoga or distract yourself.

Seek out and find support. Talk to friends or family. Chances are that someone you know has gone through or is going through the same thing. If that doesn't help a professional counselor is always an option.

Life is full of changes. Many of us insist on making these changes and challenges(opportunities?) harder than they already are. If we believe something is possible or impossible — we are right. We all need to stay open to what can be. Embracing change requires less energy and leads to a better result.

Dealing with change doesn’t have to be a suckful experience. It’s only as hard or bad as we make it. So let’s be good to ourselves and be ready, willing, and able to handle whatever life has to offer for a better life!

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Alan Watts ~ Why We Resist Change