Healing oneself is a complex journey that necessitates faith, the passage of time, and the acknowledgment of certain undeniable truths. One such truth is the notion that the past is irrevocably gone, unable to be altered or rewritten.
To truly heal, one must confront a fundamental truth: the past is irrevocably gone. Acknowledging this reality allows us to free ourselves from the shackles of nostalgia, regret, or bitterness that can hinder the healing process. While the memories of our wounds may persist, accepting that the past cannot be changed enables us to focus on the present and shape our future. By directing our energy toward personal growth, forgiveness, and self-compassion, we create an environment conducive to healing.
Let us delve into the concept of "time."
It is often claimed that time possesses the remarkable ability to mend all wounds. But can we truly place our trust in this assertion? Does time hold the power to genuinely heal the wounds etched upon our souls?
As the minutes turn into hours, days into months, and years into decades, the acute pain of a wounded heart may indeed diminish. However, the traces of that anguish linger, subtly manifesting themselves in the recesses of our beings. Though the intensity may wane, the imprint remains. Time's passage may reduce our afflictions to mere echoes, but the scars persist as constant reminders. They serve as evidence that while time may possess a healing capacity, our minds retain an unwavering recollection.
Healing, then, becomes an intricate interplay of the tangible and intangible. It necessitates the faith to embark on the journey, the patience to endure the passage of time, and the courage to confront the enduring verities. By embracing these essential elements, we can begin to navigate the labyrinthine path toward self-restoration.
In essence, time holds a dual nature—it offers solace and yet simultaneously unveils the indelible mark of our past. It is through this delicate balance that true healing emerges, transcending the mere passage of time and becoming an amalgamation of faith, acceptance, and self-discovery.
something is what it is and that there's got to be a way through it.''
—Michael J. Fox
So, let's talk about acceptance again. Like the quote above, maybe acceptance is acknowledgment of reality with the goal of dealing with it by the best means possible. Time heals worry in much the same way. Accept the worst and then try to make the worst outcome a better one.
Another quote to illustrate what the passage of time does to pain and suffering comes not from a philosopher but from a comic artist:
There is much truth to that statement. In most cases, it perfectly encapsulates, ''Time Heals All Wounds(of the heart)''
Emotional pain often is felt much, much more than physical pain. I think we can all agree on that point, and we should also know and understand that psychic pain can have a great impact on our quality of life as well. It further needs to be remembered that the stress and negative emotions associated with any psychological trauma, can also lead directly to actual physical pain and illness.
Let's look at some coping skills:
REJECTION, Let it go! Rejection stimulates the same pathways in your brain that actual physical pain does, that's why it hurts so much. The feeling of rejection interferes with your ability to think, remembering and make decisions. Let it go, because you are just as valuable and valued to the Universe, as the one who hurt you.
Brooding, Stop now! When you go over and over a hurt in all it's gory details, the memories you replay in your head become enhanced and even sharper, which in turn causes more anger. Plus there are no new insights. Instead reflect briefly on a painful event and trying to find understanding or closure. Over thinking increases your stress and with some people it can actually be addictive.
Flip that negative to a positive(always!) DO NOT let yourself feel helpless after a hurt, or blame it on your lack of ability or bad luck or anything else—your self-esteem is too important. You can however, understand and accept that specific factors are within your control, and then focus on ways you can improve yourself.
Use your guilt wisely. Guilt can be a positive emotion, in that it may stop you from doing something that is harmful to yourself and another person. It also can be very damaging, so the 'dosing' is important, because guilt that hangs on too long or is over the top, can very much limit your ability to focus on your work and enjoy life. (Still, feeling guilty after apologizing for wrongdoing? Try very hard to express empathy toward the person and show that you understand how what you did affects them. This will most often lead to genuine forgiveness and lessening or eliminating your guilty feelings.)
Guard against negative self-image. Positive affirmations are excellent tools for the betterment of your health—mental, physical and spiritual. Some examples of positive, self-affirmations, such as ''Today, I am full of energy and overflowing with joy.'' and ''My body is healthy; my mind is sound and my soul is peaceful.'' These affirmatives can help you reinforce your positive qualities.
Therefore, time DOES NOT heal all wounds. Not in and of itself at least. True healing requires Faith in God, and a consciousness and constant effort —every single day.
- Miller, W. R., & Thoresen, C. E. (2003). Spirituality, religion, and health: An emerging research field. American Psychologist, 58(1), 24-35.
- Luskin, F. M. (2002). Forgiveness and health: An ongoing challenge. In Handbook of forgiveness (pp. 487-502). Routledge.
- Seligman, M. E. P. (2011). Flourish: A visionary new understanding of happiness and well-being. Free Press.
How are evil and suffering perpetuated?
Robert K. Ross, MD, President and CEO of The California Endowment, gives a compelling overview of the role that exposure to childhood trauma plays in the lives of troubled and chronically ill Americans. I highly recommend the following lecture, because it explains quite a lot regarding the problems we have today, not only in America, but indeed the entire World.
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